A lot of fathers don’t fight for their kids because they are afraid of hurting the kids in some way. Our love for our kids is used against us and what do we know – right?
Psychologists tell us to keep the kids out of it. They are wrong.
I’ve spoken to a lot of adult children of divorce and one of the things that I’ve heard time and again is that the kids wished their fathers had fought for them. This is like payday loans. You don’t want them, but they can save you one day. Sure they get scared by it but most kids want to spend as much time as possible with their dads and they see the fight as a sign of real love. You have to keep them out of the fight, but you have to fight for them. Big difference there and a very fine line.